Tuesday, 29 October 2013

confused?

There is a ‘self’ in all of us...that we hide from the world..
A side that could be vulnerable or strong.
That philosophises or behaves stupidly.
That cares a lot...or is too indifferent.

But just because we choose not to show it..does it mean we are fake..pretending to be someone we are actually not?just because we choose not to fit into every mould that is offered to us..does it mean that we cease to be our own self?
It’s like saying what is not visible, does not exist.
But there is more to us, more to our life than what meets the eye.
And why must everything be for the world? For everyone to see, judge, analyse, comment..?

Like so many things that we like to do; there is a sense of self that we all like to preserve and protect.
The entirety of life is spent in juggling between the acts of holding onto and letting go..whether its about things, events, people or even ourselves.

So then when do we actually become fake?
When we decide to behave in ways that are contrary to our real selves.. ourselves as lived and experienced by us and not merely seen by others.
I don’t like what’s happening yet i support it because everyone is doing so.
I don’t like someone; i make it obvious to everyone. But i pretend to be best friends with that person.

I mean..there is no explanation to being fake or pretentious. And we don’t need to explain ourselves to anyone , but ourselves first.
But we get lost,we get swayed by what glitters ...so much so that we lose our own shine..to adopt a different hue.
I don’t know what drives people to be unfair to their own selves.

Not letting the world know some parts of yourself and trying to be someone who ur actually not..are two different things; often confused as one.





Monday, 14 October 2013

Sometimes





Sometimes all u need in life is a leap of faith..a leap towards yourself, your fears, anxieties, wants...
With the faith that no matter what happens..you will be there to hold yourself..and even though this sounds very romantic..it’s a much more difficult task to attempt.

We are so busy leading a well structured, well planned life; that uncertainty scares us.
And moving towards one’s own self, involves loads and loads of it!

As time passes, we become more and more cut off from our own selves...lose our identity, to a host of relationships and responsibilities.

But wouldn't it be better to find yourself in everything that u pursue..Every relation you make or break?
Sometimes one needs to block the peripheral world..to be able to see what lies ahead of us..

The essence of life perhaps, never was and never will be ..to succumb to it..rather...to collect the bits..add our own colors..smoothen out the edges..and make our own masterpiece.


Because sometimes, life is not "as it happens".Life is "as you make it".

Wednesday, 2 October 2013

what do we most want from life..

what do we most want from life?

Is there something that underlies all the efforts that we make to build a life?
what do we most want out of our life?
for some people life is all about being successful,powerful,rich etc
while some are happy with little achievements and the little things of life.
and there are those who let life just happen on its own..not knowing where they are headed..but they welcome life with open arms..and embrace the destination that awaits them.
we want so much from our life..but at the end of the day..its just that one things that makes all our struggles and achievements worthwhile...'happiness'.

isn't it?
we feel happy when we achieve something?
when we are applauded..when our wish gets fulfilled..when our efforts are rewarded..
we are happy when our loved ones are happy..
we are happy..when we are actually happy!

whats the point of being at the top..when you are not satisfied with what uv got?when it doesnt brong a smile on ur face...and all u can think of is what to do next?
what do u do with so much money,when u have no time to enjoy it?
whats the point of doing something that only frustrates u or puts loads ofnquestions in ur mind?
happiness is not something that just comes out of things on its own!
actually..we dont quite end up doing the things which simply generate happiness..
like everything else..it requires effort..it requires time..sometimes less and sometimes more..

yes,there are things in life that we cannot control.
some things just have to be done...because at times we get stuck and we feel that we have 'no choice'.
but amidst all this,are we still not hoping to be happy?to be content?to be peaceful?

whatever we do in life..it will always be a means to an end...the end being happiness.
so then what is happiness?how do we define it?
being 'happy' involves so much..being able to smile for no reason at all :)
being able to pursue what you love doing..even if it is in small amounts..
being able to spend time with people we like,we love..
travelling..shopping..reading...
just about anything that brings peace in our mind and a smile on our face.

for at the end of it..our quest in life should never be about earning for the sake of it or earning more than someone...
being powerful to suppress the less powerful ones..
or achieving more just to prove a point or going mad over simply achieving.
surprisingly,we always get time and the 'piece' of mind over frivolous things in life..
but we lose ourselves to that time..to those emotions that we don't need to cater to..

nothing matters more in life than a sense of contentment,peace and happiness...that a life well lived can give..

and yes,its just a perspective ..:)